- Kenneth “Kenneth The Page” Ellen Parcell
- “Wow, you eat so much but you’re still so skinny.”
- “I can’t imagine anyone being smaller than you.”
Oh good, you’re aware of the stereotype that all women are highly insecure
about their body and will develop an eating disorder if they don’t receive
reassurance from men.
Come on. Did you really just say that? You can’t imagine anyone smaller than I
Let me fill in the holes: My “skinniness” and “small size” are an illusion. I’m relatively thin and I’m Asian-American. Thinness + Asian genes + living in obese America = illusion of tininess. Which inadvertently leads to bullshit compliments from guys.
There’s another illusion equation involving the variables, thinness and Asian. Thinness + Asian genes = should in fact be tiny. Guys who live by this equation pay me slightly different compliments.
- “You should go to the gym. I’m not saying you need to lose weight. Just go to tone up. And you don’t have to go every day, but you should go like every other day.”
- “You’re kind of fat!”
(after a guy put his arm around my waist and squeezed it)
- “You’re heavy for an Asian!”
(after a different guy carried me over to a sofa chair)
By the way, all of these “compliments” were unsolicited; meaning, I promise you I don’t ever direct conversations to be about my body. It’s a sore subject for women, after all.